Thursday, February 23, 2006

Homophobia within Sport



I've been reading with interest the posts by Zefrog and Slightly concerning Football and Homophobia, and the so called 'outings' of the Premiership footballers.

While both make valid points, concerning the impact that it would have on society if some of the players within sport were to come as gay, there seems to be a discrepancy between other sports and football.

Growing up in Wales, were Rugby is considered on par with religion, it has was always acknowledged that there are players who are gay, but not openly so, even if they did, I don't believe that there would be much of a anti-gay movement as Slightly claims. I've personally slept with 2 players who have played at International level for Wales, and a even more who have played at Club level.

Apart from the ones who were in relationships with females at the time, the others were known within they're clubs as being gay or bisexual. This didn't affect the relationships that the other players had with them, although as expected it was used regularly as a way of mocking them, but not viciously, more in banter, as they would also mock those of a shortened height or with a lisp. While some may consider this as being offensive, it also should be remembered that if someone was to say something about the gay players and meant it offensively from any other team, then the teammates of those who were being attacked would support them.

This also applies to those who support Rugby, fans in general are considered polite to those who play against their team, while they want they're team to succeed and there are rivals within the sport, generally most fans appreciated other teams, are respectfully of them and the players within the opposition. A player of different colour, creed or nationality doesn't tend to suffer any abuse from fans when they play. Those of different clubs aren't targeted when they play for the International teams, and even International teams for example England when playing against Wales, are afforded that respect when they play. There are a number of players who the fans know to be gay, yet don't chant abuse or torment them even if they play for the closest rival team, Rugby is and will continue to be a thug game played by gentlemen, and this applies to the fans too.

Football on the otherhand doesn't have the same respect either by the players or the fans. Players details of they're private lives are sort after, and exploited by the press and the fans to hurl abuse, mock and seek an advantage by demoralizing the player and the team.

The current obsession, not only by the tabloid press but also the gay press, which you would consider would be more respectful of people's private lives, mainly for readership and advertising revenue, in regard to the football players who have indulged in private behaviour whether it was gay or not shows how far we have to go to respect others be they gay, bisexual, lesbian or straight and their privacy. Just because someone has a trade within the public arena doesn't mean that they have to be tormented when they live within the law and cause no legal or moral disturbances.

Gay footballers will not be able to come out now or in the future until public obsession with the sexual lives of those who are held in high regard, idolised or in the public eye disappears.

Hopefully the readers of the Sun, NofW and other equally unrespectfull media outlets will tire of the current witchhunt over people's sexual lives, which will enable those who wish to live openly as gay, lesbian or bisexual without themselves or others constantly stating so will be able to.

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Going Home

I've been excessively poor of late updating this blog again, only one simple post in 2 weeks, I won't lie to you, I just couldn't be bothered. Lots has gone on, but my memory has become fuzzy again, so I can't remember enough details to finish what I'll start.

In light of my last post, my lovelife (which is contradictory word by my book) has stalled completely, but that doesn't matter, since the last post I met my first guy on Gaydar fo purely sex reasons, invited him over, experianced his shock and awe tattics of foreplay and within the hour he was off cycling home, so that should keep me happy for another couple of months.

Within the last 2 weeks, I've been kidnapped by 6 lesbians and taken back to their abode, plied with ck (the new drug of choice amongst the gay community) and vodka, and sounded out for the 'security' services.

I've been waxed, cut, tanned and whored for charity. Left my volunteering for the Samaritons, enroled in Amnesty.

I've learned palmistry, read an interesting, yet dubious book by John T Manning on the links between finger ratios and homosexuality. Enroled for my CIPD course to allow me to go back to training and development. Enroled on a Chinese (Mandarin) language course, and got a friend to teach me Cantonesse in exchange for me teaching him Welsh (clearly not a equal swap, but at least Welsh is more romantic).

I've discovered that people have lines which when crossed (even when not done on purpose) can lead to the silent treatment. Also that (pre)friends on drugs can lead them to become paronoid and cut you off completely.

Still apart from that insightfull fortnight, the main jist of this post is that as of tomorrow I'm going back to Wales for 6 days. This joy of returning to desolate landscapes, poor communication methods and Albright bitter is only compounded by the knowledge that at least I'll be able to work more on my book, which has falling by the wayside in the last month or so.

Well stay fresh.

Thursday, February 16, 2006

A Week is a Long Time in a Love Life

Within the last week, the love front has grown more complex, and then simplified itself.

Last Tuesday I finally had the date with Ad, which seemed to go ok, he's the kind of guy that appeals to me intellectualy, and when I'm in his company, I enjoy being able to discuss things with him that the majority of my friends don't discuss at all.

In a lot of ways he reminds me of my friend P, as they both have interests in politics, science, yet Ad also enjoys Opera as much as I. While they both would make enjoyable companians, I can't imagine having sex with either, therefore not great bf material. This is a shame, as Ad is very cute.

So come Wednesday my attentions are more drawn towards At, who's the one that used to date P when I was going out with R (P's current bf), but again I'm not sure of my motives here, so we'll leave this for now.

Tuesday, February 07, 2006

Gay Perceptions

I read yesterday that the ASA had dropped 80 complaints against an advert involving a gay kiss on primetime TV. http://www.gay.com/news/article.html?2006/02/04/2

While the ASA stated that the kiss for Dolice & Gabbana watches couldn't be banned for its homosexual kiss alone or even the time it was shown, it's enlightening to find that the majority of the population now accept that this is a natural act, and shouldn't be hidden from anyone including children who might have been watching.

This was on top of the article in the Independent yesterday stating the Top 10 Gay adverts. There seems to be a growing influx of adverts portraying gay characters or events, yet in the past this boundary has been pushed for more shock value than advertisers wanting equality on our TV screens, so with the ASA verdict, will we see an increase or decrease in gay characters on adverts.

The other query is now that parents will have to be aware that their children will be faced on adverts with gay relationships and events, are they going to be more open about accepting these relationships and explaining it to their children, or will they impose their repulsion to gay relationships, either way, it means that there will be more openness concerning the gay community.

Monday, February 06, 2006

Girls. Girls? Girls!

Prior to our disco dancing on Saturday night, due to our eagerness(confusion?)we had an hour to kill before we could enter, so we stumbled across a small white pub in Vauxhall. It had a sign outside saying "Valley of the Dolls", so we apprehension we enetered, not knowing what to expect, or if 5 gaymen would be welcome, we were quite relieved to see several Transexuals/Drag Queens at the bar.

The owner come over and explained that it was a 'Private Party', which was on every Friday but we wer more than welcome to have a drink for the evening, and stay if we wished. He also wanted to check that we were aware of the clientale, and that we were accepting of that.

So we stayed for a drink, and during that time, I noticed that the others in my party were becoming slightly agitated, and wanted to leave as soon as possible.

Once outside, they continued to be slightly disconcerting of the pub and it's clientale. This surprises me, I've always been comfortable around Drag Queens and Transsexuals, partly as in my Swansea days I was a Drag Act, fabulous of course, partly as I'm from a small gay community we all stuck together.

Yet the reaction of my friends, whom are nice people, feel there's while it's acceptable to be entertained by Drag Queens from the stage in their locals, aren't comfortable drinking amongst them whn they're dressed up but not performing.

Considering we're now in LGBT History Month, is there increasing factions in the LGBT community that are heading towards discriminating amongst those that we've stood by in the past while others were discriminating against us. Now we have our laws protecting us, is there going to be divides, created in part by those gaymen who seem to think that being Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgender is beneath those of a 'pure' Gay orientation.

If so, how can we rectify this before soon we'll be having individual History Months dedicated to just the Lesbian, Gay or Transgnder sections of our community?

Thursday, February 02, 2006

Putting on a Show

Note: When you go outside to smoke one of your 'funny' cigerettes, especially when your listening to your iPod, in particular David Bowie's Jean Genie.

Do NOT dance around the garden, especially at the same time as the neighbours across the way are having a dinner party, therefore providing them free and amusing entertainment during their meal.

Next time charge them!